When life gets busy, one of the first things to go in a relationship is sex. Couples are too tired, too full, too stressed, too distracted. Simply put: not in the mood. We get it -- there are a million and one legitimate reasons not to have sex tonight, tomorrow or the day after that.
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It’s been 19 years.
Three years ago I had sex every single day, for one whole year. To answer the most popular questions I've been asked since: No, it was not with men. It was with one, my husband. Yes, even while I was on my period. I have no idea what my kids were doing while we were having sex. I assume not watching us. And finally, no, I didn't do it to save my marriage. I did it to save myself, the effect it had on my marriage was merely a perk. Shortly after having my third child, I remember getting out of the shower, catching a glimpse of myself in the mirror, and wondering, "Who let my mom in here? I kept the lights off during sex , hid my stomach and boobs inside a camisole, and I waited for my husband to leave the bedroom before barreling from the shower to my closet to get dressed.
By Jane Ridley. Trapped in a marriage where the sex was routine, freelance journalist Robin Rinaldi , now 50, embarked on a month experiment in which she lived apart from her husband during the week and took lovers. Stuck in a rut — our once-a-week sex life was loving, but lacked spontaneity and passion — I was craving seduction and sexual abandon. I was having a midlife crisis and chasing this profound, deeply rooted experience of being female. Before then, starting a family had felt like one route to this elusive state of feminine fulfillment. But Scott had made it absolutely clear he never wanted a baby, and even had a vasectomy. Many people will find this hard to understand, but, as the door to motherhood closed, I found myself rushing towards this whole other outlet of heightened female experience — taking lovers. I was pretty conservative. Sexually, I was experiencing what happens to a lot of women in their late 30s and early 40s. I was approaching my sexual peak and was relaxing into myself.