I am a non Mormon. It can burn, and it can burn you hardcore. Is your mind made up and you want justifying support.
Note, her mind and TSCC were married first. I'm on mobile and it isn't letting me post the URL. I am a 40 year engineering graduate from one of best engineering colleges of the country I mention this becoz I want to stress the fact that I have a hard-earned career. You can also attend their singles conferences, or participate in social activities organized by the Church. As a non-Mormon male widower Catholic contemplating marrying a devout temple recommended widow, I thank you all for the wonderful blog. Second, in my experience mormons have been some of the kindest people I've ever had the privilege to know, and they have not lived up to the cult image you describe. I am also going thru the same thing.
There are two ways to go about this. My mom always said the more you have, the more it owns you, so true. Cookies make wikiHow better. A few years, maybe. If you are married to your best friend, then love him unconditionally, share the struggles, accept the sacrifices and know that if he could, he would rather be with you than with a sick or dying patient. Her church is more important to her than you are ever will beplain and simple. I always feel like I am last. I think it was Spencer Kimball who counselled that before marriage you should keep your eyes wide open and then after marriage keep your eyes half shut.
In her mind if you never accept the gospel you are denying her eternal exaltation as a God. I just happened upon your blog I'm a doctor's wife as well - rural family medicine and I just wanted to agree with you that "have no expectations" is awesome advice. That would only encourage her to give up other standards that really are serious and to become like the typical Western degenerate. Response to your edit: Do NOT bring up or mention anything that could be considered "anti Mormon.