That's all she thought about for 18 months, plus the months leading up to it, and winding down. Sorry man, but if I knew what I know now I would have cut my losses. She was fine marrying in an LDS church instead of the temple, didn't want to convert me, and most importantly didn't try to change my beliefs or opinions.
This is the rule rather than the exception. These same principles have helped build strong, successful religious communities for thousands of years. I'm glad you both have found a way to get past the incredible forces that are working against you. I feel like now more than ever, I am expected to just not have an opinion about anything or even a say in how we spend our time together. Some mormon girls are closeted freaks as someone here has already said. That desire that they be someone other than who they were when they married you is toxic to a relationship. Anonymous, You are definitely one of the the club. In her letter to herself as a young doctor, Dr. I feel he thinks we cannot be two masters in this boat and if I am this ambituous we may never have time to have and be a family. Ask her rhetorically if she would dump her religion for her true love.
Even though we don't have kids I know the feeling of spending my Mrs Doctor life alone. Lyman April 24, How appropriate to celebrate this second night of Hannukah with not one but two queries about interfaith marriage. It's a heart-wrenching story. I think she sounds great but she won't be able to not bring it up. December 19, OK, you're off the hook, mine was in the 70's too, but I hadn't been to CA by then. The church is really good at putting on a happy, wholesome face to show the world, but if you look behind the curtain, you see that it's a despicable cult. I have a friend who identifies as bi-gendered and often feels most comfortable in femme. If she identifies as a Mormon, then she probably takes her faith seriously, and it means a lot to her. In fact, your GF is probably one of the countless Mormon women who get married only to find out they have zero sex drive because of what they learned growing up.
It sure has its ups and downs. As our relationship has progressed, this vague hypothetical question has led to some much more concrete thinking about what an interfaith marriage would be like for me, for him, and for us. Also, as Joanna points out, men and women already inhabit a separate culture. Lately we haven't been talking much as he doesn't want the "scrap time" that I have left over, but instead wants quality time. I'm the wife of an intern and we try to make a night each week to go do something, just the two of us. This has led to more arguments than ever before and I feel so alone This is all very helpful.