If you are not old enough to consider marriage, you should be careful about having a serious, exclusive relationship. It is not easy for a nonmember spouse to understand a three hour worship block plus callings etc. Do you drink alcohol. When missionaries come home, they are like top dog religious people. It is not something that should be taken lightly. Have any of you wives found the same thing. She will be oh-so-grateful if you do not pressure her to discard those values. She will be surprised that a non-Mormon holds the same values she does and respect you. How could I help a non-Mormon spouse to feel like a member of my ward family when he is not a member of my church. God roots for both our teamsвthe hopeful screw-ups and the straights.
Well, you won't be getting into anything soon. I'm married an interventional cardiologist; and I wish I only knew 5 years ago before she started her fellowship what the heck I was signing up for. As a community, we're not set up for screening each funding request [more]. Don't wait for it to eventually fall apart or hope that she will change. Of course my parents love each other very much and would not choose another spouse, which is why her response caught me off guard. Before I met my husband I had dated quite a few members and some relationships were quite serious but I never felt right about it. Someone already said it, but unless you are planning on converting, this is a dead end relationship. It sounds like she's already considered marrying you and raising children in the church even with you being out of the church. I feel a sense of freedom would come with it, but I am also afraid of what this could mean for us in the long run. The divorce factor may allow some women to experience single-faith marriage at some point as some Mormon men marry multiple Mormon women over the course of their lifetimes, but the overall point stands: The only options for these women involve seeking a partner outside of the church, or a lifetime of celibacy.
There are so many potential problems they would fill a book. We met when I was 19 and have been together only the past 4 years but the love has never died. That's cool and everything until you realize that they're an archeologist or a missionary pilot and are in uncivilized areas with no modern methods of communication. Mormons are very strict about avoiding sex outside of marriage. I found that it worked just as well. Do you want a home that is focused on the church with all of the blessings there of or a home that is devoid of the blessings of the priesthood, Sundays without your husband at your side at church with your children celebrating in the gospel. What a miserable state.
That of course does not mean all eternal marriages should have been entered into or will succeed. I can relate to this post. I am literally too lazy to get up and get the computer. You should not be trying to be exclusive with one person, so go on dates with as many people as you can.