You are a good person. Keep things going and see what happens. There may be underlying personality similarities, but if the answer to "what shall I do next" is always trumped by a Morman frame of reference for one partner, but not the other, conflict is inevitable. My nonmember husband and I have been married for almost 18 years. Our relationship also hasn't really progressed-- we're still only spending the same amount of time together that we were a few months ago. Doctors are gift of God but when u marry, family too is important. The LDS Church encourages that young women explore their options and meet all different kinds of people. There have been times in my marriage where I have been frustrated and angry by his lack of change. It has been very difficult to reconcile our two expectations, hopes and dreams. Some other times I admire myself and ask God for help.
There are other ways. Know that you are playing a game aka dating mormon girls that has low odds of success. In response to the anonymous comment posted April 3, I am not married but have been dating a medical student for about four years, he is in his second year of residency and it has honestly been difficult because when he graduated medical school he had to move five hours away to start his residency program so we travel back and forth and our relationship is serious but im scared that things will never get better as far as his busy schedule, even when im there to visit he is on call and im basically on a mini vacation by myself.
Without going into too much personal detail, I received a very real, strong prompting that I should marry this girl. I walk on egg shells as well and feel like I am merely a maid, cook, nanny, etc I work to focus on the positive but the days are ing and lonely. But it would not change my love for that person. And depending on his views of the Sabbath, you will probably get the tug of war on Sundays. Become a Redditor and subscribe to one of thousands of communities. She hasn't submitted the paperwork yet but I have no doubt that she will do this eventually. It's unfair to assume that she feels that way without asking her. If it's the latter then you may need to be more direct and take initiative. Full respect and care. This means holding hands while walking around, or even kissing.
I'm sure their motives and good intentions are good - shame some female patience cause us the Doctors wives to have anxieties. I would never change my decision to marry him. That was hard on my relationship and I had to give up on my dream of being a computer programmer. I am a lawyer married to a surgical oncologist. He isn't always around for holidays, birthdays, or anniversaries. You I think are ok with that. Yet others are really great human beings. By all means, I encourage you to try having those discussions and to make a mental note of when you would choose to walk away instead.